Nestling in the corner of the bottom stair early the other morning, was the biggest spider that I have come across in a long time! Not moving or scuttling along but just sitting there, its large furry legs splayed out so that we could see his full size and seemingly daring us to tread on 'his' stair! We were all a little fearful of this particular spider. And so began the conversation about fears and phobias...and importantly what the difference between a fear and a phobia re